2. Pain is an Invitation
See the see the see the the Baltimore or Yeah. Friday. Friday morning. Early in the morning, there's a takalan on the plane. He's like for for, like, five hours, they're on the plane, then they get in about two hours before Shabbos.
Speaker 1:Then there's Takala on the plane when they land. And his he I was in LA. The phone. I'm on the plane. And then he was like, okay.
Speaker 1:I gotta go. It's eighteen it's, like, eighteen minutes. The whole Sidorson was waiting for him and drove him to drove him to the Rug's house. Whatever. It's a whole story.
Speaker 1:It's crazy. What's the Musa Haskell? Yeah. Too deep too deep in you. Okay, my brothers.
Speaker 1:Let's do this. Okay. Let me go. I'm gonna can I I don't have a guitar today, obviously? But okay.
Speaker 1:I wanna teach you guys a This is a nigun of Ruf Ginsberg that he wrote, I think, this year. That when I have when I do events with him, this is what we have to play now. I think it's a give out nigun. Listen. It's very simple.
Speaker 1:It's very Amish. And then when we have the guitar, it'll be even even higher. Listen once and then and then and because every note every note's like, hey. Listen one time. No.
Speaker 1:What do you think? When he taught it to us. Mhmm. Not so Not so passionate, but when you get it, you get in. That first I don't know what you call this.
Speaker 2:It's the reddest It's like
Speaker 1:The gazont. The knech of the kishka. You know? Like, that thing. It's just like, get it get it together.
Speaker 1:He's like, yalla, army, soldier,
Speaker 3:on. Let's go.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Like, Like That's the movie he did to grab the Weinberger. Keshav, the month of the month of ER is sponsored by the Silvers, by the By the By Millers in honor of Sam completing the cycle of learning entire Torah. And by the Krams, This week is sponsored by My parents in memory of my grandmother, though my grandmother, my father's mother, the one that jumped off the train. Hayabad Shmuel, Ubatia, her is, I believe, the night before Lad Bohemia, the Wednesday night.
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Speaker 1:His Yahtzee, it's today in Pesach Sheini. Shimon Lei, Halevi, Ben Yisrael, Avra Malevi. Amen. Amen. If you pass these out, we're we're continuing what we began last week, which I got so much I got so much feedback from so many here that it was it had some kind of an imprint on them, not just from here, but also by many that are learning with us online.
Speaker 1:And what's interesting is not just for many that learn with us online, but also many. Many this is, like, fascinating. Eli, you'll find this fascinating. Many Mashbim, many different teachers in different circles that were, like, not not shocked, but fascinated that we're actually learning this as a like, the eon. Because he's a The usher is a The usher is this this matmon.
Speaker 1:It's it's a different It's something else. We began speaking about it last week. Now, what you have in front of you right now is from this sefer. It's called Imre Asher. Now I we're gonna make an order.
Speaker 1:So anyone that wants the sefer, let me know. I'll probably just order, like, 25 or much because there are 30 of them. If you don't have it, we'll get it. We're gonna be doing things also outside of the sefer. This sefer is a collection of letters that he wrote.
Speaker 1:And in each letter, there's advice and life changing experiences. Eli's been learning these letters for many years. And thank God you're here because, you know, it it continues to be a source to lend us in in your presence. But we'll also continue to learn about his life and see different things about him that'll help us understand understand. Just give us insights into this amazing character.
Speaker 1:Just a a prerequisite for today and for all the learnings from Usher is patience. You need patience over here. Where where remember how I told you guys a few months ago that I I met this guy at a conference that said that his dream is that people first start viewing themselves as a soul and only then as a body. That's his dream. A big guy that's really trying to make a big change in the world.
Speaker 1:An entrepreneur, a businessman that's very involved in some big things in the spiritual world now. And that's what he said. His dream is that people, when they think of themselves, think of themselves, not when they look in the mirror. When they think of themselves, first they first they see a neshama, then they see a body. So that's a very far out statement.
Speaker 1:And I was thinking, like, wow. So what what kind of Torah do you learn what kind of Torah do you learn to, like, implement that lemaitre as as fast as possible or as smooth as possible? And I believe that the Torahs of this tzatik are taking us exactly to that direction. I believe so very much. But it needs patience because it's a re it's a rewiring of our of our of our brain.
Speaker 1:There's a rewiring that needs to happen over here. This is filled with vision. It's it's filled with developing our own vision, but learning from someone's vision. But I believe that it's tapping into the vision that the had when he thought of creating human beings, that the had when he thought of creating human beings. Like we said last week in the shear from Reb Shalom on the Parsha, how often do we walk around thinking, what did you have in mind when you thought of creating the world or so and so?
Speaker 1:Just sitting with those types of questions. So we're gonna start to learn a letter here that Reb Usher wrote to someone in Chodesh iyar fifty five years ago. Right? Fifty five years ago? Tafshem Lamid.
Speaker 1:It's nineteen seventy fifty five years ago. That's pretty scary, you know, for whoever that are born in the seventies. No? Very. You're freaking out right now.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry. You're tripping out.
Speaker 4:It's okay.
Speaker 1:But you're 34. It doesn't doesn't really matter. I'm 18. I don't know what you're talking about. Okay.
Speaker 1:Alright. And I just wanna welcome the abbat Tariq Shmuel Fleisher. How's it His baby girl is in the world, and it's such a school to learn together. And also welcome back Yos from the it was a beautiful. It was strong.
Speaker 1:It was a strong. It was a strong. And you knocked it out of the ballpark. Okay. You have to look inside here.
Speaker 1:The Hebrew is not that difficult, but there's a here. And I don't think we're gonna finish the whole letter today, but we're gonna start it. We come across people in this world. We meet people that their vision, their eyesight is very that means weak. And nonetheless, The fact that they have a weak eye sign, weak vision, it doesn't really bother their serenity and their peace.
Speaker 1:They're they live with it. We see this in every single thing. We meet people all day long. What they're thinking of is is the is the worry over over sustenance, over paranasa. And it's worrying them all day long.
Speaker 1:This is what they're trapped in from the second they wake up in the morning till the till the second they close their eyes and probably also in their as well. On the other hand, that in reality, they got nothing. And yet, it doesn't really hurt them so much. I mean, the first type of person that's worried about Parnasa all day long and all night are usually Hever that have everything they need in the fridge. It's all there.
Speaker 1:Like, to get whatever they they they have everything that they need right now, But the daiga about where will tomorrow come from, what will be the next day drives them insane or thoughts about five years from now or thoughts about five minutes from now. But the on the other hand, you do have Hebrew. They barely have a thing, and yet somehow it doesn't really, really hurt them. It doesn't pain them. So what do we see from this?
Speaker 1:The pain that is found in our thoughts. It doesn't necessarily mean that the pain that we're experiencing is connected to what? Reality. Reality. To reality.
Speaker 1:But rather, the source of pain and worry is coming from the soul and not from the body, not from what's actually going on right now. Now you may say to yourself, I wonder who these types of people are. I don't know. Who would live like that? This is kind in all of us.
Speaker 1:This is existing in each and every one of us. That that which really gives us the most daiga, right, the things we worry about the most are not necessarily things that are actually happening. It's just binyanim of thoughts that are rooted in our they're coming from our soul, but they're not coming from what we actually have to go through every day. Is the air on, Trevor? Like, that's a worry I actually have.
Speaker 1:That's a that's a that's a that's metzius, I think. That's a metzius. No? It's warm. It's warm in here.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Yeah. That's that's something yeah. We gotta we gotta bring it down. Okay.
Speaker 1:So Usher is always saying, gift at the pain that we feel. If you could learn that that's a gift to tap in to what your whole zach is, then you'll live a completely different life. And anyone that's been through life that experiences like this, that when I experience pain, I view it as a gift to go inside deeper and I can figure out so much more about myself. They live different lives. It's a different experience in this world.
Speaker 1:It's not that you have to look for pain. Pain will show up. Struggles will show up. The Shaila is, do you run away from it? Or do you realize this is the way to find all the beauty that I know is in store for me?
Speaker 1:Now, continue on the bottom. When we wanna investigate and find find where it's all coming from, find the root of this pain. We first have to
Speaker 5:go Adam.
Speaker 1:Sorry. Adam. First, we have to go and investigate deeper to reach the root of of reality of man, of what's real. Where does a man get the strength to blossom, to grow? Where does he existing from?
Speaker 1:Where is the headquarters of actual that person has in this world? How do what gave us to wake up this morning? What to actually attempt to go to a difficult cheer? What gave us to work hard? Everything.
Speaker 1:What is the Makkor? What is the source of all of it? And obviously, you'll all say, activating bechirach of she is, and then I have koach and I make my decisions. Not so passionate. That's actually the snake.
Speaker 1:Look what he says. Fourth line from the bottom. He Ein. Ein. Ein.
Speaker 1:The real of man is only when I reach a state of I am Do
Speaker 3:you know
Speaker 1:what that means?
Speaker 6:Nothing. Nothing.
Speaker 1:I'm not nothing. Yeah. Nothing. What do you mean you're nothing? Look at you.
Speaker 1:You're working the of man, the real of man is that I'm nothing. Only then things can start to really happen. But I start off, I have to come to this understanding that I start off from the place that the of man is nothing You're we are not our own reality and base on our own. There's no such thing like that. What there's something that gives us that gives us existence, and this thing is called is what give is my mitzvahs.
Speaker 1:Is my real reality. It's the most real reality in the world. But where do I stand? I stand in this by this dividing screen between me and which means I'm lingering between who I am, like who I think I am, and that which really makes me exist all the time. I'm trapped in an illusion most of the time between who I really am and who I think I am.
Speaker 1:Man lives with this habitual thinking of nature that I am the We all know this very, very well. And we all look at we all, like, learn. We sit and cheer. And we hear this and we all think that people are trapped in such a in such an illusion. However, that illusion is so in our day to day lives, it's not to be believed.
Speaker 1:Mhmm. It's not to be believed. Let me ask you a question. If a person I'm gonna go out of the text for a second. If a person would actually be free from the notion of, would life look like?
Speaker 1:What would bother you? What would make you happy?
Speaker 3:There'd be much more sitting.
Speaker 1:There'd be much more? Sitting. Sitting?
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 1:What is sitting? What do mean sitting?
Speaker 3:It wouldn't be I don't think the person would be very concerned about what they have to be doing physically in this world because that's not what their focus would
Speaker 7:be on.
Speaker 3:Their focus would be on how to develop more spiritually and to be past their physicalness.
Speaker 1:Okay. Okay. Anybody else? Shmuel? You wouldn't get upset when
Speaker 7:someone cuts you in the
Speaker 1:Right. You wouldn't get upset if right. No, hon.
Speaker 6:Would you be bothered about your spiritual growth?
Speaker 1:That's that's a good Shailan. If you're if you're nothingness, so that so would you be bothered if you weren't growing as fast as you would want to?
Speaker 6:But there's no ego, but there is but you know you want that back.
Speaker 1:You see, Javier, this is this is where it gets starting to get fun and and and and electric in the. This it's it's not our fault. Also part of the program is the way Hashem designed us as well. It's to conquer it, but it's to find something beautiful about it. Usually, people talk about, you know, and which means to completely nullify the, the ego.
Speaker 1:So they speak about very extreme, extreme things, needing to go on retreats. Quite often, people speak about it in terms of the uses usage of psychedelics and all different types of things that are very extreme to go to this place of nullifying the of nullifying the. Now that's the goal is obviously to rid ourselves of our ego a %, but it's not necessarily through the lens that we're accustomed to. It's a whole new especially here, it's a whole new train it's a whole new world of thinking. Ma, did you have your hand up?
Speaker 1:Yeah. I was this
Speaker 7:is just something that hit me this morning, and I I feel like, again, it connects everything. Like, I'll I'll just I'll I'll share this. So there's someone that that we got him with that obviously has some sort of handicap, And he'll go ahead and, like, be very loud and peep the the bruffle over and over again. Right. And at first, when I came across it, it's a number of years
Speaker 1:ago, and I haven't even spoke to you about this then,
Speaker 7:I said, wow. There's this it wasn't even here. Right. Is Skye, know, you got obsessed with any cap, but
Speaker 1:it's incredible how, like, the heart is
Speaker 7:able to express itself by saying these over and over again in a very unique way, and it and it touched me. And I and I actually liked it and appreciated it. And I did. I I did. I don't anymore.
Speaker 7:And and, I mean, it it it it bothers me. It it and I'm bothered by that.
Speaker 1:I'm actually saying I'm coming out
Speaker 7:of show. I'm not like like, so I'm meaning what and you're like, well, what what are you? What's wrong? First of all, you used to, like, thought it was so holy. Now you don't think it's so holy anymore.
Speaker 7:So it's not even as if you're neutral. You're actually, like like, annoyed. And so, like, there's something wrong with you, you know, y'all especially if you're supposed to be on you. And I get it. You know
Speaker 3:what mean?
Speaker 7:But this is, like, this is the middle of of of doppening. And so, like, I wanted to just put that out there. Right. This is something that's, like, seemingly simple, but it's not. I I was that's, you know, again, to find people.
Speaker 7:But but it it was on my mind and and something that I'm thinking about. I'm, like, looking at this saying, hey, Gus. You know, if you're, like, iron, this is not something that should be bothering me.
Speaker 3:I see it
Speaker 7:as a bellwether. I don't know if that's fair.
Speaker 1:You see it as a bellwether.
Speaker 7:Bellwether, like, rain dust, check yourself somewhere,
Speaker 3:talk about it, look yourself in the mirror, talk
Speaker 7:like, there's something wrong with you. Alright.
Speaker 1:Interesting. And, you know, he went up for the Ummit a few weeks ago.
Speaker 7:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I was, like, I I I went I knew that I had to go into Ayn because he because when someone goes up to the podium, right? So they're you're a futile to them. Whatever whatever they're gonna do. Right? Yeah.
Speaker 1:We just experienced with this shab. It's like so when and he went up, and it was actually it was act he actually did it was, like, strange how I think it's Tourette's.
Speaker 7:Yeah. I know. I know.
Speaker 1:Right? I think it's Tourette's. But when he went up to the Ummur
Speaker 7:He was able to. Right?
Speaker 1:As far as I remember, it was yeah. It's it's fascinating. That's a wonderful thing. Meaning, Ribasher is saying, does it hurt you that it bothers you? Yes.
Speaker 7:Yeah. Does.
Speaker 1:Great. Welcome. That's what he's saying. It hurts you that it bothers you? Okay.
Speaker 1:So so you've you've now tapped into the beginning of the Advaita. It hurts you that it bothers you. Let's just let let's unravel it, but not too Here's the patience. Here's the I wasn't thinking that. Here's the patience.
Speaker 1:Here's not the quick fix. Here's the patience. We have to dig deep now. If things bother us and it doesn't hurt us that they bother us, that's the warning that something's really wrong inside. If something bothers us and it doesn't hurt us or it hurts us, doesn't bother us, that's that's really the problem.
Speaker 1:If someone's killing their liver, they're drinking like like a skunk mamish. Right? And it doesn't bother them. Right? Then there's no act there's no linguist from the experience even though they could feel pain, but it doesn't bother them.
Speaker 1:So people would say, I'd rather not feel. I wanna be comfortably numb, so I don't wanna feel anything. The Buddhist is saying at a certain point, at a certain point, the amount of pain that we accumulate from all these things, a certain point, it's gonna get us. So the Shailesh and the Votat HaNefesh, what are you doing at that moment? Yofi.
Speaker 1:So we that's a great example. That's a great example. I will I mean, so many different examples. I I I'm gonna go right there.
Speaker 3:May I have just a question? I know it's beginning here, so
Speaker 5:Yeah. We'll
Speaker 3:get further. Yeah. The beatle of of of yourself, with the ego, That's the message of where we're what we're supposed to
Speaker 1:try to
Speaker 3:come to. I'm wondering, is that does it not need to be nuanced? Because the eradication of ego, which is part of our our our our design, our bodily design Yeah. Is the ego, the in, all you have an ego that drives you, hopefully, to do good things. It drives you to achieve and accomplish.
Speaker 3:It's almost like if you're running tomorrow, you know, prayer to be memebatul
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 3:Memeet. And the next day, no eggs, no what? No. It's supposed to be used as opposed to be eliminated. So I'm wondering here if
Speaker 1:I think it's a good question, what you're saying, I think that I think to a few things I'm gonna try to say at the kids, sir. Usually, that's what I was trying to say before. When we speak about nullifying the ego, the the what you think you'd be led to is to a place of complete desolate nothing. That can't be what Diribhosh Hashem wants either. So that's for sure not the point of it.
Speaker 1:Hashem would put us in this world to do a lot of amazing, amazing things. From where, though? From where? What's the starting point? Where is it coming from?
Speaker 1:Where is it coming from? So we're gonna I want to I want him to explain how the bit what ayin means according according to the way that he explains it because it doesn't mean to be completely desolate and do nothing. That that can't be it either. Otherwise, why would the rebel and shalom create any of us? So it's gotta be this but it's the Shailesh, where is this coming from?
Speaker 1:How are we using it? Yeah. You wanna say something? Ari? No.
Speaker 1:You okay? Eli.
Speaker 4:It's important to remember that these are letters written to real people. Sometimes they're parts of letters. You don't have you don't have the parts that sort of matter to everybody. And so they come from a place where he's addressing a particular pain.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:And each letter takes a cut. Right? They're they're not they're they're organized in in sort of a sort of a fashion. So the deeper concepts you begin to understand as you get towards the middle of the book. Right?
Speaker 4:The first couple of letters, read them, and you get sort of basic vocabulary, but you can't come to hard conclusions about what he's really saying until you sort of get into the flow.
Speaker 1:That's why that's why the Akdoma for this year was patience. A lot of it. And we'll and we'll we're gonna get there. Mhmm. And when a person lives with when whether I realize it or not, but really, that means my strength, my might created for me what I have when that's the way I live my life.
Speaker 1:So now look what he says. We're on one, two, three, four, five. Sixth the end of the sixth line on the left column. What happens when you suddenly reach stumbling blocks while you're on your way? You get filled with disappointment and despair.
Speaker 1:Why? Why? Why? Why would you get filled with disappointment and despair? Why?
Speaker 1:Because they contradict They contradict the natural way that you think. That you're your own corporate this own reality.
Speaker 3:I had a plan. This isn't going to
Speaker 1:This is not going according to the way that my mind designed it to go. Bishmili. This doesn't add up. There's a stirrah going on over here. So, therefore, when it doesn't go in accordance to my own built up vision based on that I'm a reality, what am I filled with?
Speaker 1:I'm filled with what's that? Frustration. Mhmm. Every listeners. Right.
Speaker 1:But if you'd stop for a second and say, but wait a second. Let's say that the way that you designed the whole thing, maybe there's someone that designed everything else that's going on in the world with a complete perfect order that has something much greater in store for you. Would you still be that desperate and and and and and full of despair? So I wanna tell you, quite often, still yes, because we're Akshaynim. We are Akshaynim.
Speaker 1:Akshaynim can come and say, listen. I have this amazing
Speaker 3:Yes, you do.
Speaker 1:Amazing plan. It doesn't look like the way you designed it. And you're like, okay. It's like a sham coming to you. Okay.
Speaker 1:Whatever. Right? Okay. It's so painful to see like this. Now where did this start that I think that I could have a better plan than God?
Speaker 1:How could we come up to such a thing that I know better that my Mitzi is a bet is better rooted is deeply more deeper rooted in something?
Speaker 3:Well, we do have a few examples. I've grown debating with Bezh Barqoo about the destruction of Stone Memorial.
Speaker 1:Right here.
Speaker 3:Moshe Rabinu debating with Bebacu more than once about what is what has happened to Mesoam. So there is a for of course, to be able to
Speaker 1:Wrestle. In both of those cases that had nothing to do with themselves, that was pleading over other people. That's not what we're talking middle of the year. We're talking about when it doesn't work out for me. There those both cases, Abraham is dumb, had nothing to do.
Speaker 1:See, one time one time in his life, he thinks maybe what he wants would be better than what God decreed. When is that? That's the only when it came to Eretz Israel. The one time when Midrash tells us, I just wanna let me fly into the land like a bird just to gaze the land, just like the right? One time it happened like that.
Speaker 1:And even there, it's completely connected to this. Where did it begin? Where did this Balagan begin for us? This everything comes from there. What happened?
Speaker 1:The dividing screen was created between man and his creator. Human beings. We became separate entities separate from holiness. That's what Eitzadahs did. Before till Eitzadahs, which wasn't that long.
Speaker 1:Right? But for the few hours or however long it was, I and Kiddusha were one entity. It was one Mitsius. Comes the snake, the Eitzadas, and in that moment, injects its vermin. And what did it basically cause?
Speaker 1:It caused me to think what he's what the said. You'll also be like god, but you're gonna you're gonna be your own god. You're gonna be your own god.
Speaker 6:Yeah. I was recently speaking to and the idea of, like, if one's aspiring for something brokenness wise and you think this is the best thing, What's your kibana when you're to Hashem? So he gave me a granny, so he said, Hashem, it seems to be this is the best for me.
Speaker 1:Ah, very good.
Speaker 6:Seems to be the best for me. So we're not taking, like, our own position on it.
Speaker 1:That's that's beautiful bitter. It seems to me that so and so would be good. Yeah. Someone came to the office yesterday to to give a about something. Said, you know, you should really announce that you should have to say on Friday night when you're when when you're finished before this man.
Speaker 1:He didn't say it seems to me. He said he said, you should really you know, I said to him, you should really stay till the announcement so that you'd hear that Yili actually said that. Seems to me. It seems to me, anyway. Seems to me.
Speaker 1:Everyone comes in with this, this should be. But it seems to me. You know how the tzaddikim, when they had a thought of it seems to me, how do they begin by saying?
Speaker 6:What does that mean?
Speaker 1:That means it seems to me in accordance to the My humble opinion. My humble opinion. You're right. It seems to me based on my my poverty stricken mind, really, if you think about it. In my humble, humble opinion.
Speaker 1:In my not so humble opinion.
Speaker 4:So I think we read this way. We read we read that with a a comma after each other. Right? We read that this actually the problem started with and I think there is no comment here. It actually says It's actually even in the root of creation itself.
Speaker 4:Even before. Even before. Because the simple fact that I'm living in any kind of a body or any kind of anything that's somehow separate from that, there's already a there's a there's a spark of a.
Speaker 1:That Meaning just me. Just from being Just me.
Speaker 4:And it's it's it's baked into creation. This is just a
Speaker 1:Chazak. Chazak. You wanna say something?
Speaker 2:Yes. This it seems to me is actually the the natural way that we function because the brain has nothing in it that can get to the MS. So whatever we think or say or perceive, in fact, is always it seems to me.
Speaker 6:But the nature of Right. The nature of man not that seems to me like this I'm this is what's good for me.
Speaker 2:Yes. But but we go on and say that's how it is or that's how it should be because that's what gives us a sense of security. Uh-huh.
Speaker 1:It's all about security. Yeah. That's where it's coming from. Yeah. For sure.
Speaker 1:For security. How can I live so vulnerably if I don't have that, you know, this program, this plan, this everything drawn out? Yes. Yes. I need a plan.
Speaker 1:Man with a plan. Don't have a plan of nothing.
Speaker 2:One of the the worst imaginations that people report is to be lost in space. Just float in space. You have no idea where you are. You have no control. You have no idea where you're gonna end up.
Speaker 2:You know?
Speaker 1:I know of someone that feel like that here.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Yes. And that's a that's a horrible, horrible feeling because it seems like you have no control. Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's all. But the illusion of I know exactly where I am and how things are gonna unfold may be even more tummy. It may be even more perverted than what you're describing. Because at least there, admit that I don't have any you know, when I'm when I'm lost and I admit I'm lost I'll give you an example. This is so beautiful.
Speaker 1:You know the song? What is It's a very interesting dioc here. It's it's not quite what I'm gonna say, but it's the closest thing. Seek me demand me out. So Repshlanu, one time, was singing this song.
Speaker 1:Was 1972. The week of it was this week in Sphira. He did a concert in a in a big, massive conservative synagogue in Los Angeles called Sinai Temple. And he was singing this song, and he said, you know, friends, one time I saw a little girl that was lost on the street, and she was freaking out. And a cop found her and said, What happened?
Speaker 1:She said, I'm lost. I don't I can't find my parents. I don't know where they are. So somehow, the the the cop got the the home number from the girl, and they went to you could see what year it is because he said they put in a nickel, and they called home. And the daughter said to the mother the mother said, where are you, my sweetest?
Speaker 1:She said, I don't know, but you better come and get me. We
Speaker 7:say this every day.
Speaker 1:We say it every day. How often Danielle, when was the last time you had that kavana? What we just said right now when you said, Rabbi Moshev, maybe you did every day. Most of us don't have these kavanas when we say these psilchim. A %.
Speaker 5:No. But I mean, let's say like this, people who who really governing every day with kavonis, which most of us don't do on a daily basis. But if you do it, it it gets inside.
Speaker 1:It goes into the kishkes. It goes to the kishkes. It does. Nehaan. Eventually, eventually, we went to right to Chabana with the right direction.
Speaker 1:Okay. Back inside over here. I'm gonna read again from this from this paragraph. The screen, the dividing screen, is a natural result of God creating the world. What ends up happening into the mind of someone that realizes that they're that they that they think they're a separate entity?
Speaker 1:So they have their own headquarters. They have their own. They have their own control room. And when things don't work based on their own when control room, that's where pain, sadness, disappointment. Disappointment.
Speaker 1:That's the big word. Disappointment comes and fills your life.
Speaker 5:Basically, terror.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Why are you saying terror?
Speaker 2:Terror. Because it's terrifying for It's terrifying. Terror. You know, I think that is sort of the basis why we we need to believe in Gachmolus by Hashem for us.
Speaker 1:You read ahead.
Speaker 2:Oh, really? Yeah.
Speaker 1:No. Oh, really? You read ahead. Maybe you know something. I don't know.
Speaker 1:You ran ahead. Well, hold on with that. Hold on with We're jumping ahead, but you ran ahead. Okay. So what's our job?
Speaker 1:What's our duty? What are we here for? That's why, Eli, I now contradict you a little bit because now he's saying, actually, we're here to fix not Bria. We're here to fix Right. Right.
Speaker 1:I can't fix Bria.
Speaker 3:You can't fix Bria.
Speaker 4:We took Bria, and we compounded it.
Speaker 1:Right. I I I have to fix what I did with Bria. Yeah. A %. Everyone says, we gotta fix the sin of the tree of knowledge.
Speaker 1:What does that mean? Not to know anything? No. That's not what it said. No.
Speaker 1:That's not what it is. What does it mean to remove the snake from my life? I invited the snake in. What does it mean to remove the snake from my life? That there is that when I say that's not lip service.
Speaker 1:That's an emmis. But how do I get there? How do I get there to life of living? Just saying everything from Hashem. What does that you know, what what does that mean?
Speaker 1:What does that actually mean? There's nothing but Hashem. Everything's from Hashem. Your strength and your actions that you actually do in this world and even the to think were given to you from a higher reality. What's that reality called, doctor Chaim Shlomo Boryshevsky?
Speaker 1:Vision. Well, like He says what you just said.
Speaker 6:Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1:From the play from the from the real the the only real reality, which is God created this world because why? Why did Hashem create this world? Why did he create all of this? What's the source of it all? Doesn't feel like that so often.
Speaker 1:It is Hashem that gives you the strength to think, to dream, to act, to to to fail and then to learn from the failure. But to reach this recognition. You're not gonna like this. You're not gonna like this, boys. What does each and everyone else have to do to reach a place of their only reality that everything is is coming to Hashem to give us strength to do things?
Speaker 1:There are no shortcuts. There are no shortcuts. Everyone here has to go through you could call it what do you call it when a woman's about to give birth? I believe
Speaker 6:it's contractions.
Speaker 1:Contract like, you could call it whatever you wanna call it. If you don't. In stumbling blocks. The only way you could realize how nothing you really are is by things not adding up in your mind of planning. You know?
Speaker 1:Only and and the pain that comes with things not not ending up the way that you thought it should based on all your planning. I just wanna say that the headquarters of this is only in one place in the world, and that's Eretz Yisrael. The the secret of Eretz Yisrael. When it says Eretz Yisrael, what do you think that means? It's only about blood that was spilled?
Speaker 1:It's about those that are alive here that have all these plans and build all these maps and have all these ideas and all these thoughts. And they only really start to build for real when they realize that all those thoughts that they had were really nice and sweet, but they're all it seems to me thoughts. And when I get rid of it seems well, in a holy way, when I realize, it seems to me, but I'd rather know what it doesn't seem to you. What does it seem like to you, Hashem? Then things can start to happen here.
Speaker 1:There is khnan, kachna. This place smacks the daylights out of you. Some guy came yesterday, was planning on making aliyah to the community. He was asking me all these shaivas. And in the middle and he had all these plans and ideas.
Speaker 1:I said, brother, listen. I wanna make it a much smoother transition for you. Okay? Okay. He said, what?
Speaker 1:He's like, I'm like, tear that piece of paper up that's in front of you us right now. Why? I'm like, they may be, but I'd much rather you experience what Hashem actually wants to give you when you come here than what you've already told Hashem that you're expecting him to give you. Will always tell us the pain that awaits on these stumbling blocks. The greatest gift man can learn in this world is how little and almost nothing he is.
Speaker 1:That's the greatest thing you could learn. Not how great you are, how nothing you are, and from there to become the greatest thing in the world. Again, And from this, It's through these moments of life, of failure and of pain, I could learn on how dependent I really am am on the on the supreme power, which which is really what gives me my and the all of me and my essence is only sprouting forth, not from me, but from what I'm dependent on. Did you ever really need the Ribbon Hashlem in life? Did you ever come to a place where Ribbon Hashlem felt, if I don't have the Ribbon Hashlem, I have nothing.
Speaker 1:It usually happens when we're shoved into a corner. Mhmm. But Hashem knew that. That's how he designed us. We don't wake up in the morning when things are good.
Speaker 1:You're you're you you got thousands in the bank, and you don't have to work, but you choose to work because it just feels good. And the kids come home with good grades and and and and the love is the you don't you don't need Hashem in those moments. Can you train yourself to realize that in order to even think or experience anything on a real basis, you're dependent, dependent on being tuned into that same thing that you feel when you're pushed into a corner and someone's about to kill you. Same thing. There's no difference between by the real tzedakim, when you're shoved into a corner versus when everything is going smooth, there's no difference between the two.
Speaker 1:It's the same. It's the same thing. It's the has a word for this. It's a very important word that Maisha Gersht wrote a beautiful book on it. The word in Hebrew is called Mhmm.
Speaker 1:In English, the closest we can get to is that it means equanimity. Equanimity. It's all the same to me. That's the name of this book. If you don't have it, you gotta get it.
Speaker 1:It's all the same to me Based on the balsamtos terror of Istablos.
Speaker 6:That
Speaker 1:if I and and I'm he's I feel like he's leading us to this place. But a person usually gets the Istablos to equanimity only through realizing that the pain is there and the stumbling blocks come and they they set me up for feeling like I'm a failure and there's pain over there. Ah, to the real world. To the real world. The is gonna hold our hand while we travel through meeting places in life that have been filled with disappointments and have given us tremendous pain and anguish and feeling disgusted with ourselves and realize now that you're here, you've actually arrived to the entrance to what it means to go through this world and live a real, real, real, real life.
Speaker 1:To go back to what Steve brought up, through this methodology, the last conclusion you'll come to is that means. That that's the word. There are schools of thought that they're very dangerous because they lead you to meaning that the MS of the MS is. It doesn't matter at all if I do something or don't because Then you look are you basically saying to Hashem through that? You're saying, wow.
Speaker 1:God, I hate to break it to you. You wasted a briah. You wasted a creation. What a chutzpah that is. So we'll see it from another way.
Speaker 1:Okay. But Israel Hashem will continue this next week. Okay?
Speaker 3:For a second. Yeah. The previous language of learning, I I remember this cargo had for humanity. You have to think for a second. Any animal that birds a cat, a newborn, within seconds are up and running.
Speaker 3:Right. They're finished. Right. We, on the other hand, child, rock, fall until they master this. And that is the illustration of you can't we as humans have to take these falls and adjust and adapt and go forward each time.
Speaker 3:Only through this behavior that we've shown do we reach that at point that you brought in?
Speaker 1:Well, I I I wanna just listen. I can't let you I wanna add take what you said into to the heart of hearts. Parents that believe that they're the ones that brought their children into the world will not experience what you just said. And therefore, Chazal was so important on Madgishin, Shlosha, Shutafi, Ba'adim. That's why it's such an important crucial thing by us to live with the concept of their three partners when it comes to the creation of mine.
Speaker 1:Because these children are my If I'm a metsios atsimi, then the children that I bring to the world are part of my domain, my metsios. Right? So we're nipping that like that. That's a great example what you gave. Great example.
Speaker 1:Because when I walk into a room remember the Rebbe Rebbe Rebbe Rebbe Melech. I'm with this. This is so beautiful. I I share this at least once a year. And I learned this from from from Rip Shlomo saying this in in a in a a middle of a concert while he while while he saw parents not really being good with their Kindle.
Speaker 1:He said, friends, I read a book. I read an article yesterday that was called Stone Age Mom Meets Twentieth Century Mom. Right? The differences between the two. So listen to this.
Speaker 1:Ibn Shlomo said, let me tell you something. This article was talking about how, like, a stone age mom would have nothing to talk about with with with modern twentieth century mom. Right? He said, the night the first night that the Rebbe Rebbelech, Rebbelech of Vizhansk, brought home his son, Rebbeleze. And he was in a crib, and the Hasidim were doing a I I don't know what was going on, but there were Hasidim in the house.
Speaker 1:One of them saw the Rebbelech go over to the crib and start he saw the the nine Mali Melech crying profusely, crying his eyes out. And one of the Hasidim of the Chutz were to go closer to the crib to listen to what he was saying. So the rabbi Rabbi Melech said, my my sweet, precious son, I'm already begging you from now because I know that from where you're coming from, the greatest that I could do for you won't be close to what you deserves in the world. So I'm begging you now ready for for not giving you what you want. So that is the most profound of Shlosha Shutofim Shaba'adam.
Speaker 1:It is not my mitzvios. It's a gift that came from Makkorah Elyon. But we walk around so often that our kids are like we made them. They're ours. They represent.
Speaker 1:Represent. What do they represent? So these we'll see parenting. We'll see marriage advice here. Mom ish, crazy marriage advice, intense marriage.
Speaker 1:We'll see we'll see the whole Geshev. We'll make an order of Ezekiel Hashem for this forum, and we'll continue next week.
Speaker 3:Bye. I saw you right now.
